**Thoughts Of Taris** #53……

Hey cool kids and adults, 

I have a question for you all….

Does your personality scare people away that you like? Let that marinate in your head for a minute.

What I mean by that is, how you describe yourself. When we first meet someone they ask “What do you like to do in your free time?” You might say going out to parties, hanging out, drinking, etc…..Right? But, then when you ask them they say “sleep,  work, cuddle”….. So, you basically already have this perception in your head of how the relationship is going to go. 

Sometimes we have to let that perception of them go away and grow to love that person. You never know how the relationship is going to turn out. One day: they may say, “Babe, let’s go out”…. You end up shocked because you never thought it would come out of their mouth. You are always the one planning something for the both of you. Or the person who likes to go out all the time might say “Babe, I just want to cuddle today and just stay in the house”… Their face is at awe. You should never judge a person when you first talk to them. They might turn out to like you so much; that they change the way they do things. Sometimes they think well let me try this. Or let me say that. That person wants to make you happy at all costs. 

We can’t always turn down a person because of the things that they do. By that meaning, say if someone you really want to get know “smokes cigarettes”…. You tell them that smoking is a turn off for you. Even though smoking might be a problem for you, it might not be a problem for them. Smoking is something that makes them feel comfortable. If we tell them to stop, we are actually being “selfish”….. &This is where the situation gets turned around. You all might not last because they will think you have “selfish motives”……Get it……..If you are stepping back out into the dating force. You have to have an open mind but, still keep your standards at a minimum. If they can’t respect what you tell them, why keep them around? If they are trying to get a better understanding to keep this going, then yes keep them around. 

Just make sure you open up your mind for a better understanding. If you are just now getting to know them, don’t be desperate if they do something that you do not like. Sometimes you got to see how the first date goes. Sometimes you have to see how they act around certain people that you hang around. You just have to see what type of person they are in general. Signs are always accurate nowadays. Always pay attention. 
Sometimes giving a person a chance is a good thing but, it also can be a bad thing. 

You can either give them the chance to break your heart or make you happy. Dating someone who knows none of your friends nor family could possibly be a good thing and viceversa. It just depends on how you look at the situation. Dating could just be as easy. Having a positive mind could make it exciting. Being negative could make your dating life a living hell. 

Uhmmmmm lets see, oh yeah….. Don’t let others stop you on how you date. If you are dating online, keep doing it. (If it is working out for you.) If you keep getting great experiences well, skip what they think. If you are getting bad experiences, you might want to listen to them. It all depends on what makes you comfortable. Your soul mate could possibly be some where in cyber space and you don’t know that. Your soul mate could be some where out side of cyber space. We never know until we try different things. You do what makes you happy. But, always be cautious of what you are doing. Do not be so anxious and take it slow. 

Uhmmmmmm, lets seeee. Who ever you date, do not bring them around the family so early. I say that because if you have not been together for at least 6 months. They do not deserve to meet anyone. In 6 months, you get to learn how a person truly is. A relationship is just like a job. If you never show up and try your best, they will fire you and find someone else. Someone else could easily replace you just like that. 

Uhmmmmm, if someone asks you for money the minute they get a chance. Cut them loose. We do not need anyone begging during the entire relationship. Trust me on this. Once someone gets what they need, they will vanish quick as hell. 

Let me let you all in on a little story. 

I had a crush on someone. She was fine to me. I started to care for her once we started to talk. You know how you become so called “friends” with someone. Yeah so, I told her I liked her or whatever. Mind you, that one person used to send me Goodmorning text messages every morning. (SO CRAZY)…. !!! I thought she liked me too. (WRONG)……!!! She asked me for $75 for her situation. Knowing myself, I have a good heart. Yeah, I gave it to her. I know you all are probably thinking “Why in the hell would you do that?” I know, I know. I took that “L”. After I gave her the $75,  she started acting funny. I was not trying to move to fast. I was just like dang really. In my mind, I am like what happened to the morning messages. It hurt my feelings a little bit. I guess that is why people say take your feelings out of it and just take that “L”. I wasn’t in love with her or anything it was just like dang people actually do that. I didn’t want anything back. I just thought we was building a friendship or whatever. (WRONG AGAIN)!!! Now, I barely hear from her. & I bet once I actually get into a relationshio them messages gone come flying back. 

So, that was my little story. I barely see her anymore. BUMMER! I learned my lession on that. This is why you have to be very careful when you get back into the dating scene. ALWAYS HAVE AN OPEN MIND. NEVER JUDGE A BOOK BY WORDS OR ITS COVER. LOOK AT ITS IMAGES. 

Word of advice: BE YOURSELF. 

Tootles. I got to go now. Who ever is reading this, God Bless. Have a great night. !! 


Thoughts Of Taris#53……